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Mistakes to avoid for divorcing parents

On Behalf of | Nov 28, 2022 | Divorce |

Divorce might be the best option for your family. However, if you have children, the process is still complicated. According to LegalJobs, children of divorce have twice the risk of dropping out of high school and are much more likely to have behavioral problems.

Parents who decide to end their marriage have options to minimize the adverse effect on their children. Continue reading to learn how you might help your child cope with the new reality of their family life.

Do not make your child pick sides

No matter how you feel about your ex-spouse, your child has the most excellent chance of success if they have a good relationship with both parents. Do not put your child in a position where they must pick sides. Discuss visitation and holiday arrangements with your ex-spouse, and decide as parents rather than putting that pressure on your kid.

Do not complain about your ex

Children look up to both parents. Speaking negatively about your spouse in front of the child only leads to feelings of guilt, self-doubt and anxiety. Remember that your child has a part of your ex-spouse in them, too, so talking badly about them does nothing good for their self-esteem.

Do not rely on your child for support

Confiding too much in your child is a mistake. They still deserve to have a childhood. A certain level of honesty can be a good thing, but do not burden your child with emotional support. Rely on adult friends and working professionals for that aspect.

Divorced parents must strike a careful balance between honesty and protecting their child’s best interests. A certain amount of shelter is not wrong if it does not come at the expense of your child’s trust.


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