Everyone has heard of how nasty divorces have the potential to negatively impact children; however, all divorces do not have to be so severe. When making negotiations on child custody, the child’s best interest now and in the future should always be first on the parents’ minds. To help reduce the potentially negative impact of divorce on the children, there are some steps California parents can take to make the transition smoother as well as benefit the children in the future.
In order to make the transition smoother, both parents should communicate with each other and make sure that their homes have some form of consistency. For example, children will adapt to the change easier if the rules, discipline and rewards are the same at both households. Also, it is very important for parents to ensure that both parents care about the children equally, whether the children spend most of their time at one household or the other.
In order to benefit the children in the future, parents should set a healthy example for the children to follow when communicating with each other. If the children see the parents solve problems in a calm, diplomatic fashion, then the children can learn to resolve their own disputes in the same way. Additionally, seeing their parents try to get along will also benefit children in the future.
Child custody is often the most fought over aspect of divorce proceedings. However, no matter what the parents may want, it is important that the decision is made in the best interests of the children. There are many different paths to choose when deciding on child custody in California, and divorcing parents may benefit from exploring all the legal options available in order to make a decision that will be best for their children.
Source: American News Report, How to Handle Child Custody in a Divorce, No author, Oct. 8, 2013