Domestic violence in a relationship is never acceptable. It is a pattern of controlling behavior or coercive behavior that can be life threatening, according to The Center for Family Justice. In a domestic violence or abusive situation, one person in the relationship holds the power and control. For many, when they think of domestic violence, they think of physical abuse.
If your first thoughts are of physical abuse, you may be surprised to see the different characteristics of domestic violence.
Psychological abuse is damaging behavior that your partner may use to control you. He or she may also use it to specifically hurt you. Emotional abuse is most often verbal but it can also take other forms.
For instance, someone who emotionally abuses his or her partner may call them names, he or she may say humiliating things or intimidate you with his or her language. Some forms are clearer, such as yelling or controlling your every move. Less obvious signs of emotional abuse include manipulating your children, acting dismissive over what you have to say or constantly talking down about your other loved ones.
In an abusive relationship, one partner may make the other person financially dependent on him or her. This is different from one partner being the breadwinner. An abuser will give the you no say in how to use your money and may forbid you from work or school. Any attempt to earn your independence, he or she may jeopardize or sabotage. You may have an allowance, whereas your partner has complete control over all assets and bank accounts.