Marriage is entered with the hope and belief that it will last forever. The sad truth remains that almost 50% of marriages in California end in divorce. When children are involved what can be a difficult and painful decision can become that much more difficult. It is now widely considered that staying together for the sake of the children is not in the best interest of the child or children involved.
It is not divorce that can cause problems for children but the ongoing unresolved conflict between the parents. With the issue of conflict in mind, there are certain considerations to take into account when parents decide to divorce. Children may feel the family conflict and resulting divorce are their fault. Young children have a narrow view of the world and frequently see themselves in the middle of it and something that so radically changes their world must be their fault.
It is up to the parents to ensure the child that that is not the case. Children need to know that while parents may fall out of love with each other, their love for their children can never change. Regardless of how parents feel about each other, negative feelings should not be shared with children. A child needs the security provided by a loving relationship with both parents, regardless of whether a divorce is involved. Negative comments about the other parent to the child should be avoided.
Trying to remain cordial with each other and keeping the best interest of the child in mind can allow for a smoother transition to a new phase of life. When considering a divorce, seeking professional advice can help ease that transition for the whole family. An experienced family law attorney in California may be able to assist in establishing a successful settlement and parenting plan that is fair to all involved.