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How to discuss divorce mediation drama with adult children

by | May 24, 2018 | Divorce, Firm News |

There is a lot of advice out there for how to support minor children through a divorce, but what about adult children? Many people will share too much with adult children in an attempt to have them pick sides or to gain favor. However, the drama and anger that may result from a difficult California divorce mediation should not necessarily be discussed at home, even with children who are no longer young.

Adult kids are a bit different than younger ones when it comes to divorce. They are more likely to understand the situation at hand, which may make parents feel like they can discuss the issue with them like they would a friend. Other parents may choose to not talk to their older children about it altogether, assuming that they can handle the situation. Oftentimes, however, even adult children need some reassurance in times like this.

Much like younger children, it is important for divorcing parents not to put older kids in between the two parents or ask them to choose sides. People should reassure their children of any age that the parent-child relationship will not be affected by the change and that the parents both still love the child. It may be necessary to have a more mature discussion with older children about the reasons for the divorce, but if possible, parents should do so without putting down the other parent.

Adult children still living in the family home may experience a divorce differently than one living outside the home. Their concerns should be considered and not ignored simply due to their age, and effort to maintain a positive relationship is critical — especially soon after the breakup. California parents facing child custody issues, debates over the marital home or any other disputes may benefit from divorce mediation with the support of a lawyer in the state.

Source:, “Adult Kids of Divorcees Should Be Spared from the Drama“, Tracee McCole, May 21, 2018


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