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How to deal with non-physical abuse during divorce

by | Sep 28, 2017 | Domestic Violence, Firm News |

Many people experience bullying during their childhoods. Some California residents are unlucky enough to find themselves married to bullies. Domestic violence takes many forms, including non-physical abuse. This can include being ignored completely, or being subjected to verbal abuse.

For an individual who finally summons the courage necessary to break free from such treatment, the act of separating can put an end to any physical violence. However, verbal abuse can be one of the most difficult things to overcome, as this may continue during divorce negotiations. Often, one spouse may subject the other to verbal tirades in front of their children, and evidence of this behavior may be relevant during custody disputes.

It can be helpful to keep a record of dates, times and details of the verbal abuse for use in court, if necessary. Outbursts may have been witnessed by friends or family, who may be willing to support one’s claims. If the police have been involved in responding to domestic incidents, the reports from these occasions will also provide valuable evidence, as will any texts or emails exhibiting abusive or threatening tones. If children have witnessed these events, they may have told teachers or counselors about how this made them feel, and it is possible that records of these conversations have been kept.

In certain cases, it may be possible for California residents to obtain a restraining order against their ex-spouses due to non-physical abuse. Avoiding direct contact with one’s ex during the divorce need not complicate the issues at hand. Seeking the appropriate advice will give one the best opportunity to move forward in a positive manner.

Source:, “Nasty divorce: 8 ways to deal with verbally abusive spouse“, Henry Gornbein, Sept. 25, 2017


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