Not all marriages last forever; in fact, about 50 percent of all American marriages end in divorce. This is true for all age demographics, but there has been an increase in divorce among the older demographic. Every marriage has its flaws, but some flaws, if left unaddressed, can become predictors for divorce in California as well as in the rest of the country. While some may be shocked when a divorce from a marriage that lasted years ends, there can be obvious signs of why the split occurred when one examines the inner workings of that marriage.
One common feeling that couples who have been together for several years may get is the feeling of a lost connection. When the children are grown and out of the house, couples may feel a loss of identity and, consequently, a loss of connection with one’s partner known as empty nest syndrome. The couple may feel that life is too short to spend in a marriage that may no longer be pleasant.
Another factor that could lead a couple who has spent several years together to divorce is a lack of coping skills. People in their middle and later years will more than likely encounter conflicts, and, if one spouse does not have the right coping skills to overcome these conflicts, it can lead to unhappiness for both spouses. Couples need to be able to overcome conflict together, otherwise it could create a breakdown between them.
Ultimately, one takes many paths in life, and, if a person is unhappy, it may be time for that person to chose a different path. If a marriage is filled with a loss of connection or a lack of coping skills, divorce may be the best option available for both parties. California professionals in divorce law can guide troubled couples to see if divorce is the best option for them.
Source: Huffington Post, Marriage Problems That Lead To Divorce After Decades, Laura Seldon, Sept. 10, 2013
